Meet Kylie
I was born in the sun sign of Taurus, and I guess it was that deep Taurean stubbornness that helped me throughout my life because, regardless of my troubled past, I always refused to give up. At 16, I was down and out and homeless. I decided that I would not carry my troubled past into the future and I would only walk forward with love in my heart.
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I didn’t know at the time this one decision was the beginning of a very powerful journey of self-discovery. Naturally, it was not an easy one – good thing I had my Taurean stubbornness to fall back on.
My journey of self-discovery
On my path of walking forward with love in my heart I read everything I could get my hands on about psychology, self-help, spirituality, biology, science and religion, trying to process and practice all the information. I travelled the world for 5 years and I went back to university to understand more about human behaviour.
Sometimes when you lose your way, you find yourself – Mandy Hale
Self Help
Although the topics of self-help are far and wide, one of the most profound challenges it provided for me was to accept that ‘no one intentionally makes a bad decision’. Think about it… we make poor decisions all the time, even if it is to have dessert when we know we are full, but we honestly think it’s the right thing to do at the time, even if our gut (pardon the pun) is telling us we will regret it.
This sent me on a journey of forgiveness to all those whom I had felt hurt by.
In those early days, psychology taught me that the coping mechanisms we used as children were often the same in adulthood. However, because our adult environment is different, those early coping mechanisms no longer served our different needs. Investigating reactions in various situations creates an awareness of these behaviours or coping mechanisms.
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I learnt that while we can’t control what the world deals us, we can control how we deal with the world.
Psychology
Spirituality
Investigating spirituality led me down a path that helped me process my troubled past in ways that could become meaningful to me. Sharing my life with so many different families when I was young meant that I did not have a very rigid world view, so I was free to explore and create a belief system that allowed me to find the positives out of the negatives.
This helped me acknowledge my strengths and resilience, which of course are great tools to have in life.
Biology
Biology tickled me the most. Biology taught me that our human cells (and in fact every atom in the universe) are 99.99% energy, which is frequency. Our DNA has the potential to express itself up to 4,000 different ways depending on its internal and external environment, or surrounding frequency, which for the most part we can control.
Control your thoughts – control your DNA.
Control what you eat – control your DNA.
Control your stress – control your DNA.
Getting the picture?
Control your DNA – control your physical and mental health.
Religion
While I am not at all religious, Religion did teach me that the purpose of life is love, kindness and compassion. It taught me that the God-seed resides within all of us and we bring that divinity to earth. We are divine beings having a human experience. All we need to do is remember.
This taught me that I am worthy, and I do belong as a child of this universe.
Science
Science taught me that the universe has evolved for 3.8 billion years in complete and utter perfection for growth and expansion. We are all made out of star dust and carry the memory of creation in every single cell in our bodies. Wow! Doesn’t that blow your mind – it does mine. Darwinian evolution has been debunked and it now appears that creation comes from an intelligent consciousness that we can all tap into because we are creations of that consciousness.
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Understanding this allowed me to surrender and trust in the synchronicities that universal flow provides.
Education
In my late 30’s I finally went back to formal education. I studied psychology and sociology before completing a PostGrad in counselling. My academic studies provided theories that informed the practices I had implemented the previous 25 years, even though I had taken a very alternate route to believing in myself and embracing my own freakdom.
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This taught me that all roads lead to Rome. It doesn’t matter what system, religion or method you use to find yourself. We are all different, so different things work for us. The most important thing is we reach a place where we can shine!
Travel
I spent 5 years living and travelling in over 30 countries and I realised there is no such thing as ‘normal’. Everybody is uniquely different. Most people are kind and filled with love, and those that aren’t, are filled with fear; fear of not having enough, fear of not being enough.
This taught me that our unique journeys are our own responsibility and that compassion goes a long way when someone behaves in ways we might not agree with.
After all I have lived and learned, I now believe the underlying problem is that we do not believe in ourselves enough. We have never been taught to. Every time we set foot out our doors (or even within the walls of our own homes) we are reminded we are not good enough. No wonder we don’t believe in ourselves.
Imagine what the world would look like if we encouraged each other to shine.
Where am I now?
For the last 15 years I have been (professionally) encouraging clients to embrace their freakdom in private mental health hospitals, through community mental health outreach programs, with LGBTQ+ communities, with people who live with disabilities, dementia and anyone else who has been ready to step into their true selves.
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I now enjoy my own practice, which is wholly conducted over the phone or via video link. I love doing YouTube videos. I get ideas everywhere; when I am out and about; when I am on the phone to a friend or when I listen to a podcast. I’m always thinking… I can unpack that. Someone, somewhere, is going through that or is asking the same question.
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I fully embrace my freakdom – I think I always have. I no longer doubt myself. I love every part of me. When I procrastinate, I am kind to myself because I know there is divine timing in everything we do, and I have learnt to trust this.
I travel around Australia in my caravan, just because I can, and, just quietly, I am a bit of a non-conformist. When the universe opens a door for me, if it feels good, I walk through it. In this way, my path lights up before me. And so it is…
I am still growing. I always will. It is my soul’s journey to grow. My world is filled with love and kindness, and I live in wonder and awe at the beauty all around me.
